In which flip flops prove to be inadequate and we take some of Gandhi’s advice
Starring Divia Kumani the first woman in her village to sit outside
Woman walking through Nimaj |
We made our way from Nimaj by private jeep. This is how pretty much how all the other tourists travel around northern India (I should mention that most of them are retirees) and it was indeed very comfortable and enjoyable.
We arrived to a choral welcome that included being dabbed on the forehead with ochre. We were staying in the home of the local Maharaja and everything seemed to have gone very up market (for which read colonial). The Maharaja’s wife, Divia, met us for drinks on the lawn. It was really fascinating talking to her as one of the things I’ve been most disappointed by India is that you don’t really get to meet people who aren’t trying to sell you something. She told the rather harrowing tale of how she’s arrived in the village for her arranged marriage (aged 19!) and been required to perform various ‘tests’ such as cooking a meal and dancing all of which were watched by the whole village who rated the likelihood that she would be a good wife based on her performance. Bored by living in Purdah (having to stay indoors, covering up) she eventually managed to convince her husband to let her convert their palace into a hotel and the success she achieved there led to two more. She is the first woman in her village to sit out the front of her house and talk with strangers and the only reason this scandalous behaviour is tolerated is because she’s made such a success of her business ventures and the fact that they have transformed the fortunes of the village.
Have I mentioned that India is filthy? I won’t have been the first to point it out. But it really is. There’s a rather sick satisfaction to washing your hands (which you do with relish whenever there is running water and clean bar of soap) because you can literally see the grey dirt going down the plughole. There is litter everywhere, the streets are paved in cow poo and the site of a long row of men taking their morning dump along the train tracks outside Delhi, sticks in the mind somewhat. But I hadn’t realised how much I had adapted to it all until I passed a dead puppy being feasted on by crows on my way to breakfast and it hardly bothered me.
The change in scenery is quite a shock after days of desert – suddenly there are green hills and even rice terraces. We took a lovely walk in the afternoon through the fields past a water wheel that was still powered by oxen and rickety farmhouses. Everywhere you look it’s the women doing the work – keeping the oxen going, chopping trees, collecting water from the hand-pumped well, walking past with huge sacks of grain or sugar on their heads. We did eventually find the men – they were all in the roadside Chai shop where we stopped for a cuppa on our way back.
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